Newborn Photography | Jordyn in Spring Lake, NC by Lacey R Butler

Newborn photography is amazing. It's collecting rugs, blankets, props. It's considering backgrounds, lighting, beanbags, baskets. It's safety, it's comfort, it's soothing. It's reassuring parents there's not much for them to do, and that whatever is happening is normal. 

It's squats, and bends, and awkward workouts over a sleeping baby. 

It's squats, and bends, and awkward workouts over a sleeping baby. 

It's being one of the first faces another human will ever study. 

It's being one of the first faces another human will ever study. 

It's appreciating relationship and trying new things. 

It's appreciating relationship and trying new things. 

It's not cropping out a comforting hand. 

It's not cropping out a comforting hand. 

It's me being way more excited about something then the parents are. 

It's me being way more excited about something then the parents are. 

It's feeling excited for people that aren't you, for cherishing the light that shines in their eyes. It's hoping that you captured an ounce of their happiness, and hoping that they know what they have is rare. 

It's feeling excited for people that aren't you, for cherishing the light that shines in their eyes. It's hoping that you captured an ounce of their happiness, and hoping that they know what they have is rare. 

An exorbitant amount of the day is spent trying to get a newborn back to sleep to get the more difficult images. I have had a few friends ask if we drug the baby-- no. Well, I don't. hah! And this baby woke with each pose change, so she was not unduly groggy. We rock them, massage them, play ambient music, fans or heaters for white noise...  

The experience during editing though woke me to the fact that there is nothing wrong with photographing more images of the awake baby. The image here with her eyes wide open and just taking it in really makes me want to shoot more of those images. And so, I will.

Thank you to TIna and Robbie for choosing me to take these images; I know she's already changed in the two weeks since we did this shoot! See you in a couple more months ;) 

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Sharon&Nate | Revolution Mills Events Center by Lacey R Butler

Once upon a time I was an introvert running a business wherein I met 150-300 new people bimonthly.

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I have several weddings where I distinctly remember not speaking for most of the day. What worked about this might surprise you. Those who don't speak up largely fade into the background. By fading, you can get amazing images invoking natural moments and emotion. You can see stories and feel the details and find the timing. You flow in the background.

There are weddings where I fell in love with families, over toasts and hugs.    There are weddings where I came to wonder why they were getting married (don't worry, this is actually pretty damn rare). There were a lot of weddings where I tried to understand everyone involved, the other quiet ones, or the loud sorority sister friendships.

baptist church ceremony

I often wanted to be friends with my clients. Is there a time when we are more soul-bare then when we plan a once in a lifetime event? We decorate ourselves as we see beautiful. We highlight a venue with what we think is creative, special, worthy of our guests, personal to the people celebrated at the event. We invite those that we enjoy, or those that are familiar, or those that impress us. 

church wedding photography

We hear ourselves toasted. Shared are the moments once private. The sand ceremony with children also pouring sand into the container that combines a newly crafted family. Oh, humans are so creative we invent family. 

Beyond these accoutrements, people often become stressed and that is where the reality of a relationship is. Support, encouragement, understand, kindness, friendship, beauty? I have seen all these, in nearly every wedding. I have seen hope, tenderness, compassion, tension, tears. I have never witnessed a fight between the newlyweds. I believe in love, because you have shown it to me at over 200 weddings.

It is a wonder to me. 

In my lone-ness at weddings, I basked in noticing details. I created ways to highlight details, I delighted in lighting love and like and wishes of forever. And I often left in tears. 

bridesmaid toast image
bouquet toss image

I took a break, for personal reasons, for several years from the business of wedding photography. I have learned to be me while caring about others, while trying to be inclusive, while offering help. 

By doing this, I have not garnered inclusion on the family tree, but I believe the quality of the photography has surpassed the creativity to some extent. As my focus shifted from what I saw to what you want, I instead find I'm centered around offering images that are sharp and expected. I suppose that, too, can be a good thing. 

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I'm excited to be back to photographing weddings in Raleigh, Greensboro, well.. wherever I can go, come to think of it. If you're looking for a wedding photojournalist please let me know. I'd be honored to photograph the event for you. 

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lacey renae gadwill photography

Beginnings by Lacey R Butler

I’ve been going around town, spreading my business.

And by my business I mean the business of letting go of one of my babies. Essentially, I’m going about and bragging to absolute strangers that my son starts at UNC soon. I’m babbling about how he plans to be a doctor. So I’m mostly telling his business, which has been my business until now, right? In response, some caring souls pause, looking at me closely. Candidly, I hear, β€œand how are you handling this”?  Or they harshly intonethat change is coming. One person saw fit to intimate that they cried outright, unabashed, before their own child walked away into a bright new future.

I admit, until a couple months ago I had not thought this far ahead. I never really imagined hearing him plan his life, seeing him pack. Not when he was just a notion. Not when he was in the womb. Or even when I started him on his very first day of school-- too early, but a genius I believed in, at the tender age of four.  His sunny outlook, open persona, and avid interest in knowledge would go far toward bridging the age gap between he and his peers. As a result of this early blossoming, I’m losing him to college a year too soon.

As the summer draws to a close, I think he kind of looks like a deer in the headlights, talking about fitting these things he’s collected into our two vehicles. I cannot imagine what I look like to him-- caring and confident, I hope.  I know that while my own car will propel an emotional puddle-of-me back home, to a basically empty house. But what I’ll leave drive from is him, taking what amounts to another set of β€œfirst steps.”  This time, all on his own, and for that I falter. While it feels like just yesterday we were prepping for third grade End-of-Grade testing, I now must release my grasp and trust him to walk on his own. 

Part of me is melancholy to see him go, sure. But there’s an even greater part of me picturing the beauty of life he is now at the cusp of experiencing. I see he and his girlfriend sitting at a sidewalk table for a late morning breakfast at a favorite spot, watching the church crowd go by, basking feeling the peace of a carefree, unplanned day. I try to guess what my non-sports-loving son will be like at the first college game he attends, caught up in the moment of humanity, cheering in a way that’s unavoidable and gut-level-- will he wear Carolina-blue paint on his cheek, and if so, what will it say? I think about some random road trip he’ll go on that is just so good he’ll want to skip class, to keep diving into more of the world he hasn’t touched quite yet.

I wonder how much of this new life he will still share with dear old Mom. Will he think, at random moments, that he can’t wait to tell me about some small thing that happened? Have I become simply a title-holder in his life, or someone on his heart? A burden, a responsibility, or an esteemed being whom he’s grateful to have on his own path? There’s no right answer here, but the groundwork previously laid will come to show what we have built.

I know most of what I’m feeling is normal. Likely, you too will be startled by how fast the goodbye will come, fleeting minutes between Drivers Ed to walking around a hill of belongings in the living room. Can you imagine that kid that used to dangle from your neck, like a Velcro plush toy, replaced by a young man with his own plates, sheets, and towels. He’s talking about what furniture he wants to take and how it conforms to dorm rules. He’s got some shelving units, and some shared fridge with a new roommate, and you, dear Mom or Dad, you get to help pack and add to that starter pile for a new life.

You'll find an inner need to fill the last few days with as many ways to feel you contributed as possible, so you keep buying things. Last ditch salt and pepper sets. A bike lock. Baskets for organizing. Highlighters and notecards. A random journal. Candy. An Iron. Some plants. Tylenol.  You want to find a way to assure yourself you’re still a parent, and you’re still doing your job right, prepping them till the very last second. 

I guess, in a way, he’s already moved on mentally. Wednesday will find me moving him in with all his belongings, and symbolically making his bed for the last time. I see a rolling landscape of a future, wherein I try hard to be meaningful still. I wonder at what colors he’ll paint his life with, and when storms break out, I wonder how he’ll weather them. But, most of all, I hope he knows he can always turn to me. I’ll always believe in his ability because, from the first day we met, he has been a wonder to me.

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Engy and Mark | Briar Creek Country Club Wedding by Lacey R Butler

Last weekend I had the pleasure of working with this adorable couple and their families from Egypt.

The ceremony was really amazing, although it was not in English, I felt able to discern what was going on... and the incense was intense!

Other vendors included:

360 Vision Events

Wedding Hair by Liz

Briar Creek Country Club

Engagement Photos | Ivory and Matt | retro by Lacey R Butler

So... the session definitely isn't retro, it's just plain cute. Right? But Matt and Ivory booked me for their engagement session then disappeared into the ethos a couple years ago, so that means it's kinda retro of me to post this, right?  I believe they wed in California, and while I would love to have been flown to Cali for the big white wedding day, we didn't choose to do that. I got to meet them, greet them, shadow them and show them Duke Gardens, put them in some interesting spots and photograph magic. And then I never heard from them again, as these things tend to go. 

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Engagement sessions are like cake frosting, right? I get to lead, and be creative, and be funny, and just be me with this couple that's so in love they want photos of themselves in love before the big day that commemorates their love. And if there's something to be said for being in love, it's all about being happy and wonderful and beautiful, amiright? Of course. 

Wherever you are, Ivory and Matt, I hope that you're enjoying the love you share and creating more of it, every day you get to be together. 

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Guesting by Lacey R Butler

Almost late, I slipped unnoticed into the crowd of guests as live music, moody blue as smoke,  whispered of the fast approaching festivities. The sound provided a jig to which the flies and faeries and runaway children danced under the magic of old trees, backlit by the suns setting gold. All eyes were trained on a magic crane, giant and white, peeking idly around the corner of the Spruce Pine Lodge. And then it took flight, gracefully calm and languid as a hot summer day; we unfolded and were enveloped in white-- the crane, the calm, the children, as giant flags kissed our cheeks, slow and soft, a vision of puppets and fancy. And weren't we all children, then, for a moment-- transported into the landscape of fantasy?

I centered and thought of my camera. I watched the photographer, the videographer and wanted my camera. See how they run. How well I know that, how many times I've been that.

Three. Hundred. Weddings.

And this one, I sat. Be something else, today, I said. My camera waited in the car. My phone rested by my feet, which I admit did wiggle, wanting to work. My mind spun, effortlessly backlighting, framing, wanting to see everything, to feel everything, try new angles, unfocus, to tell every story. This child's freckles, her braids, his boots. The bridesmaids nervousness and vintage gown. The guests that chose to stand, the better to witness. The way one peeks at another when something catches.  Instead I tried desperately just to drink it in without feeling my mission. I fought instead to allow myself to be present.

I was so rewarded.

When stilt walkers prance on uneven ground with warm grins towering over children of staggered ages, you smile, laugh and are-- unequivocally-- alive. What is this thing? How strange this moment! How surreal. And then the passel squeaks the opening beckon of love, love, love on kazoo and you're one with the crowd, and you're all giggling and you can't help it. You're in love, too.

With a moment. A life. A vision. A beauty. A dance, rhythm, light, sound, meaning, desire, dreams, hopes, vision, effort, details,         love.

LOVE, love, love.

I couldn't stay entirely. I'm too sentimental about everything and I look so awful when I cry. The blue sky winked between green tree leaves for a minute so I could detach, however briefly, because the absolutely beauty of life can be too much.

Surely you've seen this?

I watched the procession. I watched the guests. I saw that the groom and bride weren't afraid to see one another before the wedding because THIS was a thing they'd borne together, this day, and why not celebrate it together as they saw all those they loved come together?

I have never seen such a beautiful thing, because I am always about the moment, and not of the moment, not in the moment. Do you see?

And what thing to be gifted with! The perfect wedding of beauty, a deep understanding, finally, of what the day might mean. So often people keep apart, as if the day were about surprising one another with our outward beauty. I beg you to realize you are beautiful, truly, from a deep well inside that you can't see, can never hope to understand-- you will always be too busy treading the surface and avoiding the hard parts, but your life's partner must see that all as beautiful,  and it shouldn't be for the first time ever on the day you promise you'll always stay.

I watched a beautifully vivacious woman breath deeply into oneness with her perfect partner, and they honored one another, and they asked for affirmation from those present. 

Later, there were toasts about how he's uniquely quiet and she's cleverly crafty and I'll tell you those things are true from what I've seen. But deeper into the evening, I witnessed how they looked at one another with understanding, and how they shared in cleaning-up chores, and neither complained, while their friends continued on, merrily unaware, dancing and singing.

And I'll tell you what selflessness means.

It means, that on a day when the world wants to convince you you're a princess, you know that your life partner is going to help you make the people you have counted on all those years before you met that partner happy. Because you know you have the rest of days to be happy,

I am so very thankful I had the gift of a moment as a guest, and I wish you all to be in the moment in life, whenever and wherever you find it.

Reatha's Goddess (Maternity) Session by Lacey R Butler

As far as Goddess go, I thought Reatha was not only stunningly beautiful, she was enduringly sweet.

We walked through Umstead and she never really disagreed with any ideas.. but she did talk very passionately about her dislike of insects.  I must mention here, I in no way coerced her into entering the forest with me!   No, turns out it is one of her favorite places. The initial caveat to choosing a location was that it spoke about North Carolina. I was all, you mean, like, BBQ's and urban sprawl? But she was like, no, dear, the landscape...

Something like that.

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Cannot wait to meet little J! <3 Thanks for choosing to work with me, Reatha! Great to meet you.

Cannot wait to meet little J! <3 Thanks for choosing to work with me, Reatha! Great to meet you.

I'm so happy I got to work with her, that we created these images that showcase just how beautiful pregnancy is, and, I hope, they speak to the charming character and beauty I saw in her.